男友在上海 – 覆Soleil

Dear Zita,

I have been together with my
bf for 10 months now. He's currently working in Shanghai (will probably
be back end-October this year) and we only see each other once every
1-2 months.

To be honest, there's no problem with the long-distance because I am
quite

independent. I only wanna make
sure he still loves and cares about me. He rarely calls me because it
would cost me nothing if I rather call him in Shanghai.

I know he has tones of pressure on his job and it's difficult for him
to put aside his problems and focus more on me. To a certain extent,
I think he's quite cruel because he never calls me and even when we
talk on the phone, he does not has the motive to talk long with me given
that we only talk about once every week. I mean, I really think he does
not miss me a bit.

I don't want to quit on him because I still wanna try my best to maintain
this relationship. He's not that kind of 'flower heart' guy and I regard
him as the 'future husband' type of guy. Although I cannot reveal everything
here, to make the long story short, what should I do?

Thanks in advance for your advice!


Soleil




Dear Soleil︰

遠距離關係最緊要講個「信」字。

現在,他不是有第三者,於他而言,已經是愛你的表現,你也明白,上海女人多猖狂,他不讓自己受誘惑,已算對得你住。

或許他沒有瘋狂地掛念你,但這又怎樣?一日不分手,他仍是你的男朋友。

我建議你多點北上與他溫馨一番,見著他時開朗點、嫵媚點,他沒說掛念你,但你一見他就要表現得掛念他,給他最多的女性溫柔和愛意,令他知道,你是最吸引、最愛他的女人。

也常常寄他雜誌、零食、衣物。既然他在電話中表現不如理想,不如轉為email和寄信,那麼大家的溝通可能更深入。

不要怪責一個男人不夠愛你,你越怪他,他就越不愛你。

深雪覆