互相鬥氣 – 覆Kitty

Hi Zita,

I have some problem with my
bf, hope you can give me some advice.

I have been together with him for 1 year, normally we are very happy
together, and he treat me very good. But our temper is realy (really)
bad, I always get bad temper easily, and he will get temper also once
I get. So we

always quarrel a lot and he
will say many things to hurt me. Eg, we have no future etc. He said
he feel exhausted for quarrel. And he said he may leave me suddenly
one day.

I feel really hurt with what he said to me, although I know he love
me very much. As I want to marry with him, I want a bf to develop future
together.

I just wonder if he really love the real me, or just the one fulfill
his requirement. Do you think I have to change myself to fit him, should
I do that cos of love him?

I afraid a unstable relationship and I loss confident in him, my emotion
has been distrubted (disturbed) by him much and I feel I can't function
well in work and daily life. Should I continue to together with him?
How to solve or improve our relationship.


Kitty




Dear Kitty︰

很多情侶都有相處的問題。如果你們常常吵架,問題就是在於執著。

試試這樣︰當他脾氣差之時,你反面笑咪咪不受他影響。當他謾罵你、說些傷你心的話時,你不要聽進心內,只當耳邊風。記住,當兩個人吵罵時,再難聽的話也說得出。

要男人改脾氣,好難。不如你自己試試去改。如果你有點技巧,你們相處舒服的話,你們的愛情前途必定更明亮。

深雪覆