從錯誤中學習 – 覆Eva

 

Dear Zita,

This is my 2nd time to email
you. Then I started to "pat tor" with this guy but broke up
after a month.

He declined to give me his home no and said he would give me later.
In the night, he switched off his mobile and so I could only leave him
a voice message. So I am always thinking

if he may want to hide something.
Based on the woman sixth sense, I feel he has another woman but I was
not sure. I felt very insecure and could not invest my love further
on him.

He seldom called me. Usually he would call me twice in a week. The first
one was to ask for a date on Saturday at the beginning of the week.
The second one was to cancel the date just before Saturday because he
was very busy with his work. This made me feel very upset.

The trigger of this break up is that he放飛機 again without the intention
to say sorry. I think I cannot accept a man who keeps on 放飛機 in the
long run. So I decided to end our relationship though I love him. But
I feel that the amount of his love to me is very very limited. I really
want to find someone who loves me and takes me very much.

Since he was so busy and so I could only leave a voice message telling
him my decision for the breakup. It has been 5 days that he did not
return my call about the breakup and I know that he contact the marriage
agent after the day of our breakup for new chance. The agent told me
that he did not admit that we have been "pat tor" and said
that we have been only going out for a few times. He told the agent
that I should be able to find someone who suits me though I'm not suitable
for him.

I felt very bad about his denial
of our relationship but may be he get hurt for being dumped by me. Anyway,
could you pls help me to analyze the case? And his character? I want
to learn from it and well prepare for the next time. Though I still
miss him, I believe I have made a correct decision.

Regards,


Eva




Dear Eva︰

對他來說,他覺得你不適合,因此凡事沒上心,與你去街,他只當是約女仔消遣。而事實上,他沒上心的話,就算與你你上了床,他也不會當是甚麼。

既然他不當是一回事,他自然毫無牽掛也再另找機會。

而你,太容易愛上一個人,於是想來想去,你揀人,人有權不揀你嘛,別放在心上。

你也要似他,盡快收拾心情準備下一次的戀愛。記住,別太快愛上一個人,睇定些,別叫自己意亂情迷。

拍拖,只是閒事。

深雪覆