他好不好 – 覆DD

Hi Zita,

I'm 25 now and I've been going
out w/ my bf for 3 years. We're the same age. He is my first boyfriend.
He loves me and cares me a lot and always put me in his first priority.
I'm an out going person and he is a very quite person. Sometimes I think
he is very very boring. We have limit topics to


talk because he doesn't know much thing and he only interested in some
areas. He loves to stay home all the time and face the computer but I
like to go out and see around. He is a not a person who loves to 'help
out', he only will pay attentions on helping me out and taking care of
me. But for his friends, his family, he just act like very 'cool', don't
care anything. I think that is why he didn't get much friends.

I've been talked to him about this and I told him I wanted to break up
b/c I think he is not suitable for me. I list all the things about a guy
who I'm looking for (charming, helpful, knowledgeable, caring, mature).
However he said no one can meet my requirements.

He is treating me as his future-wife, however I still don't have any feelings
to marry him. I admit that he is a very very good guy to me. Even after
so many years, he can always forget everything and help me out immediately,
and cares me when I'm in need. I doubt that if any boyfriend will treat
a girlfriend like this. But sometimes I wonder how long will it last?
Is it eventually he will treat me like one of his family members and don't
really pay much attention to me? I don't know if I'm thinking way too
much or I'm immature to think this because he is my frist (first) boyfriend
and I don't know how to judge.

Thanks Zita to help me out.


DD




Dear DD︰

在未遇到一名合乎你條件的第三者前,當然不要輕舉妄動。

其實你的男朋友不錯,但當然,與你喜歡的特質有出入。而我認為,他無可能改變,除非有沖擊發生。如此這般,你只好接受他,又或者一邊不滿一邊另覓更合意的人選。

但我也想告訴你,就算你找到了更乎合想象的人,你與他之間同樣會有其他問題存在。無一段愛情是完美的。

深雪覆

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