二選一 – 覆Sunshine

Dear
Zita,

Hi...I enjoy reading your articles
and I really need your advice right now.

I met a Swiss guy (Thomas)
3 years before on icq and we became good friends. Last year we met in
person the first times when he visited Hong Kong on vacation. Afterwards,
I found


that I had fallen in love (with) him even I had a boyfriend already. Later,
he told me that he got a Brazilian girlfriend already and I thought everything
was over.

This year, due to his work, he came to Hong Kong more often and we had
more chances to meet each other. Gradually I found out that my feeling
towards him actually didn't fade out and I was really confused since my
boyfriend in the meantimes went to Europe for his studies.

So far I didn't know his feeling towards me and when I saw him off in
the airport the last times, he cried and told me that he loved me and
wanted to be with me. I told him that it wouldn't work out coz he had
girlfriend and also we were apart.

After he was back to Switzerland,
he kept on calling me and send email to me. Recently, he told me that
there was an internal transfer and he could come to Hong Kong to work
if he want. He said that he would give up everything and come here and
to be with me.

I am really confused. We share
lots of common views towards life but at the same times I know I can't
leave my boyfriend coz he really needs me. Both of them are very good
man and treat me very good.

Thomas has to reply about the request
of internal transfer before Xmas. In the meantimes, my boyfriend wants
to get engaged with me. So what can I do now?

Best Regards,


Sunshine



Dear Sunshine︰

當遇上這種情況,當兩個選擇都美好時,你可集中精神向這方面想:「我更愛誰呢?」

人生只得一次,你要揀一個令你最無遺憾的人。其餘的顧慮,你大可以放到一邊。

深雪覆