Adore him – 覆Annie

Dear
Zita,

I prefer to read all of your
articles, your unique views make me bright.

I have a strong feeling which make me confuse and boring, about one
year before, I knew a man in by chance, at that time both of us were
very upset, because I just said good bye to my ex-boy friend and he
knew

his girl friend had sex with
another guy. We chat almost every night, more and more, I find I adore
him, he is a man very perceptual, and he said he like me, this is the
very beginning I feel confuse, what is his definition of "like",
is it equal to love or it is the potencial (potential) of love?

Maybe our relationship is hard to define, because, initially, he wanted
to have one night stand with me, I did not refuse or accept that, because
I am a traditional girl, I did not refuse just because I feel fun at
that time.

About 4 months after we met, I have to go to US to continune (continue)
my Master study. When I been to US, I have a strong feeling I love him!
Although my condition is good and he is not rich, not handsome, and
have a girl friend...

Untill (Until) now, we still keep in touch. I don't know how deep he
love his gril (girl) friend, if he don't love her anymore, he would
not with her now. If he loves her, why every time we chat he don't want
to metion (mention) her? Maybe I am too simple or he is too smart. I
want to give up, but every time I try to and can't stand ...I feel very
boring.

My friend said I am too silly, I don't need to put my heart at that
guy...he has girl friend already and the very point is if he treat me
by heart? But at the same time I argued that: One should strive for
ones happy.

I am clear that he is not a outstanding man, but I still adore him,
the degree is so serious, even without any reason to surpport (support)!
Sometimes I doubt that if I am only interest in challenge the diffcult
(difficult)? Because when he told me his girl friend had sex with others,
he said that he was very angry but he also fogive (forgive) her, it
is a part of his fault, he neglected.

I am clear that he is not a outstanding man, but I still adore him,
the degree is so serious, even without any reason to surpport (support)!
Sometimes I doubt that if I am only interest in challenge the diffcult
(difficult)? Because when he told me his girl friend had sex with others,
he said that he was very angry but he also fogive (forgive) her, it
is a part of his fault, he neglected her for a period. My God! He is
a man so kind! I don't believe it is still have this kind of gentleman
and I never expected I would love such a man.

I am very blur, I feel very tired for this feeling, but what can I do?
Do I need to let him know my will?

Thank u for your patient and egear (eager) for your reply.

Yours,

Annie


 



Dear Annie︰

整件事似乎是遊戲一場,是你自己太混亂,對這個男人動了心。

如果我是你,我會一邊與他交往一邊結交真正的男朋友,除此之外,還有其他辦法嗎?他不愛你,本身又有女朋友,但你又不肯放手。

一日未心死,只好採取騎牛搵馬的策略。我不認為他會正式與你變成男女朋友的關係,如果他有此意圖,他一早已與女朋友分手。

他喜歡你但不愛你。而你,傻呼呼地愛上了他。

深雪覆

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