被男友打 – 覆Christina

Dear
Zita,

I read your articles everyday
and I really learnt a lot from them. I love they way you judge people's
love problem. I have been with my bf for almost two years. I love him
very much. I went to his place yesterday and I discovered a box of 3
condoms with just 1 left. I have been checking

his mobile messages and calls
for the past few months and I guessed he has an affair with his icq
friend Tiffiney. I asked him what had happened between him and her.
And he admitted that he had slept with her twice. He got so angry and
asked me why I checked his mobile etc. Then he started to beat me up.
He pushed me on the floor and I hit my head right on the cupboard. My
arms and legs were hurt as well. He pulled me up from the floor and
kept hitting my arms and body. It was so painful that I cannot move.
I started crying and said I want to go to the Emergency Room but he
won't let me go anywhere or call anyone.

He kept begging me to stay and said he really regretted what he has
done and he love me a lot and he will change for me. He said he slept
with her but he did not love her at all. He did it because at that time,
he was really upset about our relationship and he felt I did not care
for him at all. However, Tiffiney cared for him a lot, kept calling
him, sending him messages and willing to listen to what he says.

Zita, I am very confused now. I do love him a lot but I can't tolerant
his betrayal on me. Shall I forgive him? Why a guy can sleep with a
girl whom he don't love at all? What shall I do about Tiffiney? (in
their mobile messages, she said she loves him very much and felt very
sad). He called her right in front of me last night and said he won't
contact her anymore and I am the only one he loves.

Please help and would be most grateful to have your reply.

Yours sincerely,


Christina


 



Dear Christina︰

你的男朋友已解決了你與那名第三者的問題,他已揀了你。

但是,他是一名既會背叛女人,也會打女人的男人。

我相信,這種男人,再愛一個女人,也會繼續背叛與虐待女人,這是本性,這是天生的基因。

你即管定一條底線,看看自己可以捱多久吧!

深雪覆