如何取捨 – 覆Van

Dear
Zita,

Recently, I got a very complicated
problem regarding the relationship that I am having with 3 guys.

The first one is my boyfriend
in which I have been with him for already 4 years. He's very nice to
me but however, I really don't love him as much as I do as beforehand.
However, I dare not to tell him this truth coz it will be too hurt.


The second one is a guy that I know on the net in last year in which
he's living in Canada now. We haven't met before until this May, he
has come all the way from Canada just to meet me. I can feel his love
so much from the beginning till now and it's been a sweet time with
him since then. However, there are also some of pressures as I find
that he will be easily moved just by my joke and words sometime.

The third one is a guy that
I know when I was in the previous company. He's been very caring to
me when I first know him. Whenever I was down, he will come to comfort
me. Actually, I haven't told him that I do have boyfriend at that time.
Then, after around half year, I was told that he also got a girlfriend
in UK in which they've been together for over 10 years. I was really
shocked about this as I had asked him if he did have any gf before and
the answer is no. Then, we started stop contacting each other until
I had left the company, we have not heard from each other.

And from his friends, I knew that he already sensed that I am fond of
him and maybe due to this, he kept away from me then. I can still hear
his news from his friends since then. I am not sure if I still love
this guy or not though I know that he will love his gf only now.

I guess it's really a big joke
that even though I care the third guy the most now, it's seems impossible
to be together now and also, it's been very unfair the first and second
guy also. Can you please give me some pieces of advise in return? Thanks!


Van


 



Dear Van︰

你是一名桃花重的女孩子啊!

其實,你心目中最想要的是哪類型的男人?他們三人之中誰最似樣?

到目前為止,你其實只有一名男朋友,就是原本那一名。那位ICQ朋友,只是ICQ上的愛情,你倆天各一方,如何能有發展?況且,你的注意力都不在他身上。

第三位舊同事,你要他肯追求你才成事,他都無追你,因此,這似乎是你在單戀別人。

因此,你甚麼也不用去想,因為,現實情況是,你只有一個男朋友。你就對他好一點啦,想想如何可以改進一下關係。

要不然,可能連他也落空。

深雪覆