Why he had sex with his ex-girlfriend – 覆Sisley

Hello Zita:

I am 26 years old and have been dating with my boyfriend (27 years old) for 2 years. We always (only body touching and oral sex) have such kind of actions at his home but we do not really sex in the body. However, I always question myself if he was more serious and loved his ex-girlfriend (his first love) more as he had real sex with her once but not do that to me now. (I don't mean I want that much but just curious to know why). I asked him once before why he had real sex with his ex-girlfriend but not do that to me, he explained that he didn't want that happened again and he said he adores me and does not want that yet before marriage and afraid of pregnancy.


At that time, I question myself again why he had sex with his ex-girlfriend or he will not give his to others that easily again unless the one he really loves like his ex-girlfriend before. I am also thinking we got so many chances of making love actually however we do not do so. Can you tell me why he is like this? Thank you.

Sisley


Dear Sisley︰

我反而認為他是一名浪漫的男人,他希望把最深刻的感受留給婚姻。

你衡量他是否最愛你,要從他日常行徑中看出來,只在床上觀看,範圍太小。

你很想做愛吧!不如就告訴他,你與他的意見不同,你覺得婚前性行為更浪漫。看看他的思想會不會變更。

而我想你是明白的。有些男人,與女友發生真正性行為之後,反而不再愛她。他可能,就是為了保護你的感情,才有此決定。你看吧,他與前度女友無好收場。

深雪覆