情人結婚了 – 覆Edith

Dear Zita,

I've read most of your works before. You're a
really good advisor.

I've been together with my bf (boyfriend) for
10 months now, he's really good to me, and loves me so much (I suppose).
But I still have feelings on my ex. My ex has just married, which make
me feel so bad. Sometimes I think his bride should be me, not that girl.
"My

lover has married, but
the bride is not me", this is exactly what I feel.

My friend said I shouldn't border
that anymore, for he is now belongs to the other woman. I want to think
like that too, but I can't. He is a professional, with good income,
good family background, and good prospect. Comparing with my current
bf (boyfriend), he is so much better than him. This makes me feel the
worst. It seems silly, right? I know I shouldn't get them 2 compare,
but I keep doing this in my mind. What do ou (you) think? Any advices?

Edith


Dear
Edith:

放不開,只因為現任男友條件較遜。如果我是你,我會這麼想:「這個世界內,有很多事情是我得不到的。」

譬如,香港小姐的外表、戴安娜的氣質、千金小姐的財富、女教授的智慧……也包括這名出類拔粹的男人,這些東西,命中註定無我份。

愛情是一項選擇,你的ex與其他人結婚,即是說他覺得另外的女人比你好。你明不明白?

你一是拋棄今日的男友去找新的一個;一是平心靜氣接受現實。更重要的是,客觀地研究一下自己,究竟,你是值得好男人去愛,去挑選的女人嗎?

面對現實,生活才有進步。

深雪覆