學業與愛情 – 覆Vivian

Zita,

I have to choose between going on my studies in the US and going back
to Hong Kong and stay with my boyfriend. But I still have no idea. I
want both. Would you like to give me some advice?

I started
going out with my boyfriend in June 1999. We have been getting

along
very well. However, I've already told my parents that I decided to come
here for college. I want to stay but I had no guts to talk to my parents
about it. So, finally I left my boyfriend and came here in August 2000.
We are trying to keep this long distance relationship. We chat on phone
very often. But still, it is really hard time for both of us. I went
back to Hong Kong during Christmas and left again at the end of January
this year. At at (that) time, I guess I should make a decision, college
or boyfriend? It is because I do not believe in long distance relationship.

I love
my boyfriend a lot. And I know he loves me even more. He is a kind of
popular guy, there were girls who asked him out. We had a really great
time together. I've thought about quit going to college and go back
to Hong Kong for him. But again, I have no guts to tell my parents.
On another hand, I care a lot about my education. I want to graudate
(graduate) from college, for my future. I definitely do not want to
be a Form 5 graduate.

Zita,
I cannot have both. I have to make up the decision by May? I guess I
am not mature enough to handle it, would you please help me to figure
it out?

Vivian


Dear
Vivian︰

如果我是你,我不會放棄學業。感情會淡,感情亦無永恆,永恆只屬於知識、學位。你是大學生就是大學生,身份一世不變。你是中五學生就永遠只是中五畢業生。你也知道當中的分別吧!

你放棄了學業,回來貼住男友,緣份不夠的話,也是會分手。

我倒聽過長途戀情成功的例子。我相信的是,戀愛有其命運,它要生要死,是它自己決定的,你放棄了學業,它不會因此而復生--如果它要死的話。

你繼續留在外地,倘若因為如此,大家就要分開的話,只代表緣份淺薄。我是這樣看的。

別做一些你十年後就會後悔的事情。

深雪覆