母親成反對黨 – 覆Bonnie

Hello
Zita,

I am very puzzled right now, hope you can give
me some directions!

I got a bf (boyfriend) who is working in HK and
I am studying in US. I met him when I was working as a summer trainee
in an accountant firm. We have been together for almost a year and a
half already. I

go back to HK every summer
and X'mas holidays.

Everything goes on fine until
recently my parents found out our affairs. My mom was suspecting us
from the very beginning but she never asks me. Now that she finally
asked and she knew that we had been together for a long while. She is
mad for two reasons: one is I have not told her the truth and the other
major one is she doesn't like my bf (boyfriend). She thinks that he
is working and will not have a promising future. We are like in different
levels.

I don't know what I should do.
On one hand, I don't want my bf (boyfriend) to be upset as my parents
don't like him. On the other hand, I don't want to ruin my relationship
with my parents. I tried to explain to them but they never listened.

Sometimes I feel so upset that
may be I should give up my relationship but I feel so bad because we
are running on fine and he is treating me well. Just that he doesn't
have a good job doesn't mean he won't have any good future. I really
don't understand why my parents are acting like this!

What should I do? Please help
me!

Regards,

Bonnie


Dear
Bonnie︰

父母成為戀情中的反對黨實在是平常之事,他們生你育你,反對你的戀愛也該可以吧,至少,他們是如此想的。

你可以做的只是努力讀書,然後天天面露笑容,來向他們証明,與他戀愛只會全盤向好。不獨讀書成績好,而且品格更開心更優秀,最好的是,你比從前更孝順,他們就不會多說話了。

另一方面,不需要向男友坦白你的父母的不滿,皆因,父母今天不滿,十年後卻可能極滿意,無謂使事情太多枝節。

每一段關係也有反對黨,你所面對的,小兒科啦!不要太擔心。

深雪覆